If you’re getting ready to plan your wedding, you might have some anxiety about all the things you think might go wrong. Maybe you heard some stories of weddings gone wrong from family, friends, or online. Thankfully, some thorough planning can help you prepare for the more common issues that arise so they do not ruin your special day. Here is a guide to help you avoid the most common wedding problems.
One of the first problems that a couple encounter is making their guest list. Specifically, with getting pressure from family or friends, or each other, to invite more and more people until there are far too many people to actually invite. Here are some types of people that should be easier to put your foot down on:
- Distant relatives — third cousins twice removed on your mother’s adopted family’s side, really?
- Friends of family — co-workers and longtime friends of your parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles
- Children — babies and infants of your friends or non-nuclear family
The general rule should be that the more distant the friend or family member, the less willing you should be to invite them in the main guest list if they threaten any drama. You and your spouse should go through every possible person you can think of and then sort them into tiers of importance and talk with each other about how important it is for each person is to be there.
A similar source of potential drama involves with your wedding party. It can be like making your guest list, condensed into a smaller and more intimate group. Here are the more common ways problems can arise with your wedding party and how to avoid them:
- Selection — don’t pick people that have tense relationships with your spouse or other wedding party members
- Money — don’t pick people for your wedding party if they can’t afford all the costs for the special events
- Responsibility — don’t pick family or friends if you cannot trust that they will actually help with the tasks you want them to perform
Talk with each potential person you ask to join your wedding party ahead of time, talk with them about your tentative plans for the rest of the wedding party and ask if they have any issues with money, with scheduling and being able to make every event, or with any other potential wedding party member. That way you know of any potential issues ahead of time.
Many weddings encounter issues of weather, even ones that are not held outdoors as inclement weather can make traveling to the wedding venue difficult for your guests or vendors. Here are common weather-related problems and how to avoid them:
- Winter — have space heaters and warm blankets, and look into wedding insurance in case a blizzard forces you to reschedule
- Rain — have umbrellas, tents and alternative plans for outdoor ceremonies in case of down pours
- Wind — if you are having any part of your wedding outdoors with temporary shelters, make sure they are secured to the ground strongly
If you are holding your wedding at a time of year or region that is more prone to difficult weather, you might want to consider looking into wedding insurance so you do not lose all your money if you are forced to cancel or reschedule it.
For the extremely worried, hiring a wedding planner or day-of coordinator is always a practical, and smart decision. This is probably the best way to ensure that your guest list and size of your wedding party is maintained, and that your day doesn’t become a devastation due to weather.